Let’s All Be Friends ๐Ÿ˜Š

It’s Autism Awareness Day and I debated whether to put something up today or not. Social media is awash with many well meaning posts, saying how they love someone with autism or how hard it is to be their carer but they carry on because they love them, and that’s lovely, I do understand it, but I wonder if anyone actually understands how difficult it is to be autistic? A carer gets time off, they have moments where they can be themselves in a world made for them, but someone autistic is always autistic, there’s no break, no free moments in a world formed in their neurological way, it’s just the same confusing place all the time. How do I know? I know because I’m autistic. My fabulous kids are too, and people always say “You don’t LOOK autistic!” Well, I’m not entirely sure what I’m supposed to look like, but a formal NHS diagnosis for all of us was pretty thorough so I guess we still look like every day people, and that’s because we are! Our brains are wired differently, and that’s it. We DO have empathy, usually much stronger than neurotypicals, but it overwhelms us so we internalise it as it’s just too much to cope with. We do, however, misunderstand some situations, and that’s why people think we’re not empathic, we just can’t always read the neurotypical signs very well, but I would say 99% of us are mortified to have got it wrong if we do. So, we don’t always see what you see, but then you don’t always see what we see. We notice the things that are hidden to most, in art, in music, in technology, in science, in most things really, and that’s one of the amazing things about us. We have absolutely loads of amazing things, if you just looked and accepted our ways ๐Ÿ˜Š For example, our hyperfocus might seem strange if it’s a vast knowledge of dinosaurs or trains, but that why it’s perfect for science and technology and so much else. Our distraction might seem annoying, but it makes our creativity off the scale and there’s never a dull moment in our minds! We are the same as everyone, it’s simply like being left handed. The world is predominantly made for right handed people, but a few left handed people struggle to cope because it’s uncomfortable, it hurts, it causes stress and extra work to use right handed stuff. It’s the same for us. We try to use the world built for neurotypicals so we struggle, we get tired more easily and, sometimes, it hurts. So instead of just being “aware” of us, could you just accept us and help the world to be more inclusive to the way we’re built? I think that’s all we really want. To be us and to get along with all of you. We just want to be together, in a flexible world that accepts all, so don’t just be aware, be the change we need and accept us by understanding we do things differently and that’s absolutely fine. We are autistic, we don’t need to fit in, we need to be who we are with who you are too, in a world built for everyone โค๏ธ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ–ค๐Ÿค๐ŸคŽ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿงก

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